Friends as Roommates

roommateAt some point or another people sometimes find themselves with the option of moving in with friends or moving in with strangers. There’s no denying it – rent is expensive, and it’s often much more appealing to move in with somebody you know than it is to move in with somebody that you don’t know to share the burden of the cost.

We assume that living with our friends is probably a safe bet. After all, you’re friends, right? Well, believe it or not, living with a friend is often not what you might expect it to be like.

Depending on the situation you might be renting out to a friend, you might sign a lease with a friend, or you might move in with and pay rent to a friend. You might move in with one friend, or many friends. The question is, how do relationships change when you make the transition from friends to roommates?

Conflicting Schedules

Conflicting schedules can be a cause for concern. For example, a couple of young friends who say… go to school or work at opposite times might also require sleep at opposite times. What does that mean for your lifestyle at home? You might not see much of each other, but the two of you would be expected to keep noise at reasonable levels while the other sleeps. This might have an impact on your social life. And if you’re the type that enjoys watching a movie with an awesome sound system, or blasting that great new hit that just came out… well, you’re out of luck!

Conflicting Goals

What happens if one roommate is a responsible student, and the other is party-fanatic? Sure, things were great when you were just friends. You partied when you were together, but the rest of the time the two of you did your own things. But what happens if one roommate treats his new home as the bachelor pad of the century while the other, more introverted individual, finds happiness in a more quiet and relaxed environment?

Things aren’t as they seem

Sure, your friends are great. You have the most fun when you’re with them, but right now, you’re not always with them. The fact of the matter is that over time you get bored of people, and the longer you live with them the more you learn about them.

It’s possible that you really don’t know your friends that well. You don’t really get to know somebody until you live with them. What are their habits like? Do they like to keep things neat and tidy, or are they big procrastinators? Do their habits conflict with yours? Those are the types of questions you need to ask yourself, and they are key in determining if the your friend would make a good roommate.

It’s about compatibility.

At the end of the day, it’s not wrong to move in with a friend. You just have to be aware of the fact that living with somebody can have an effect on your relationship with that person. The trick is to select a roommate whose company you enjoy, who has a schedule similar to yours, and who also has similar goals. Live with somebody that respects your goals and encourages your growth. After all, if you’re living with somebody that’s detrimental to your goals in life, then you have a problem. Don’t make the mistake of slowing your progress because of the person you chose to live with.

Cristobal Ravazzano is a developer and web strategist for, an online mortgage, loan and financial services provider.

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